Every woman should know her boundaries and feel comfortable setting them with the people in her life. If you’re constantly feeling overwhelmed and overworked, it’s probably time to set some healthy boundaries within your relationships and at work. Setting limits is empowering and will help you feel more in control while also having your time respected by those around you. Let’s get started!
- Saying “No” To The Things You Don’t Want To Do
Life’s too short to spend it doing things you really don’t want to do. If you find yourself with a calendar full of activities you wish you’d declined, it’s time to reflect on what might be the root of the issue. We have a tendency to say “yes” to everything to avoid the possibility of being disliked or upsetting others. The truth is, the only person you’re upsetting is yourself by not getting to spend your time doing more things that you love.
Next time you want to say no, politely decline or suggest a different activity. Try to form your response in a way that you would like to be turned down if the roles were reversed.
- Creating Mutually Beneficial Friendships & Relationships
In every friendship and relationship, there should be a healthy amount of give and take. You establish this dynamic over time in your relationships without even realizing it, and you may find yourself in situations where you’re constantly giving a lot more than you’re getting in return.
While you want to be a great friend, you shouldn’t also have to play the therapist role. If you have a friend that calls every time something happens and completely unloads their issues onto your already full plate, set some clear boundaries. You can establish appropriate times to call, schedule the conversation to a time where you can be more present, or have them check in with you first to see if you have the time or capacity to take on their issues at that moment. Kindly let them know that these boundaries will help you both be better friends to each other while still respecting each other’s time and feelings.
- Not Allowing People To Interrupt You
We’ve all got that friend, relative, or co-worker that is a chronic interrupter. Their behavior shouldn’t be taken personally as their desire to give their 2 cents in the middle of a sentence is likely something they do to everyone. However, just because they do it to everyone doesn’t mean you need to let it happen to you. You can politely stand your ground and send a message that you aren’t someone to interrupt. When interrupted, you can pleasantly state that you weren’t quite done yet or ignore the interruption completely and finish your thought in hopes they’ll back down. You can always address the issue privately, too, by kindly letting them know that you’d love to hear what they have to say, but you’d appreciate the opportunity to finish what you’re saying first.
- Creating Boundaries Around Work-Life Balance
Technology has made it so that you can really work from anywhere, at any time. It’s easy to put in extra hours each day when everything you need is on your laptop. To protect your work-life balance, you need to set healthy boundaries and realistic expectations with your supervisor about your availability outside of regular work hours. If they know they can reach you at any time and that the work will get done immediately, then that is the expectation they’ll have of you. When receiving messages or emails after hours, politely respond that you’ve received their message and you’ll make it a top priority when you start your next workday.
- Protections Around How And To Whom You Lend Money
Apps like Venmo have made it easier to transact among your friends and pay each other back for things like a night out or fun trips. Unfortunately, it’s also made it easier for friends to borrow money that they never seem to pay back. The truth is, constantly lending money to friends does more harm than good. You may never see that cash again, which could cause resentment to develop in your friendship. It also doesn’t help your friend change their unhealthy spending habits. Instead of lending money, try to instead help them brainstorm possible solutions and kindly let them know that lending money has burned you in the past, so you’d really love to preserve the friendship.